I regular write opinion pieces that I wonder if I should. I write about my perspectives on others in the caregiving space, especially if I believe their work does a disservice to family caregivers.
When I do this, though, I wonder: Am I making my work harder? Shouldn’t I just get along with everyone like everyone else does?
My disposition is different, though. I’m just not wired that way; I can’t swallow back an injustice just to buddy up with organizations that don’t align with my values.
In truth, I am making my work harder. I also am giving myself a good night’s sleep.
I also realize that I can make these kind of decisions — should I really do this — if I create a personal charter that lists my mission, values and priorities. When I wonder if I should, I can refer to my charter for guidance. If my charter lists speaking up for others who can’t, then I speak up for others who can’t. If my charter empowers me to be the dissenting vote because I must vote my conscience, then I remain the dissenting vote.
We can remind ourselves that our personal charter can lead our decisions and choices by asking ourselves this question to start the day: “How will my charter lead me today?”
How does your charter lead you?
I thank you for sticking to your values. This means you are supporting us as caregivers and not punching down. We get a lot of that. You are a beacon of light and I so much appreciate you shining!